Shower, Shave, Sh*it, and Shine
Some of you take longer to get ready for guacamole than it takes to fly to Chicago. This week, Ryan Rockford is doing an intervention — twenty minutes, start to finish, no committee vote, no soft-launching your cheekbones. Featuring the full, savage story of Marcello: two hours, every MAC product known to man, and a bowl of guacamole that, for the record, still needed salt.
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The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
There is a version of the sex-work conversation that makes everybody behave like a malfunctioning politician: lots of moral language, very little honesty, and somebody clearing their browser history.
The Business of Desire is about the work — the money, the safety, the boundaries, and the hypocrisy. But it is also about what people are paying for. Often it is not only sex. It is attention. Conversation. Company.
Years ago, a widower I will call Walter told me, 'You're not selling your body. You're renting out your attention. Nobody ever tells you you're allowed to keep the account.'
You can be desired by thousands and still starve for somebody to ask how your day was and mean it.
Listen to The Business of Desire on Off The Record After Hours.
He Likes You Too. Now What?
The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
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What happens when the guy you want actually wants you back?
Nobody prepared us for that part.
In HE LIKES YOU TOO. NOW WHAT? Ryan Rockford takes on the emotional side of queer sex and dating: second puberty, reciprocation, shame, consent, sexual health, emotional availability, and the panic that can happen when somebody good shows up and refuses to play games.
Why do unavailable men sometimes feel exciting while consistency feels suspicious? Why do we hide how much we care and then complain nobody understands us? And what happens when being fiercely independent collides with a relationship that asks us to let somebody in?
You deserve someone who wants you back.
But they deserve the chance to know you want them too.
No sponsors. No script. No bullshit. Just us.
Just Say 'No'! Women Cannot be Draq Queens
The Business of Desire: Gay Men, Sex Work, Money And Loneliness
Just Say 'No'! Women Cannot be Draq Queens
Can cis women be drag queens? Ryan Rockford says no—and he knows some of you are typing in all caps.
This episode of Off The Record After Hours is not about whether women can be glamorous, camp, theatrical, funny, outrageous, or vital to queer culture. Of course they can. It is about whether the title “drag queen” has a history that cannot be separated from transformation, gender transgression, survival, and the reclamation of femininity.
Ryan breaks down the difference between access and entitlement, and explains why preserving a boundary is not the same thing as excluding someone from queer life. Along the way: giant hair, newborn-giraffe heels, dressing-room shade, and a few opinions that may require an adult beverage.
Important: this discussion is about cisgender women. Trans women are women.
